This will probably be a slightly snarky post - so if you don't want to read it, then don't.
Sometimes girls just don't know how to cut the drama.
Tonight, I decided to go out for a walk. Before this, my friend had come in from outside to drop by my room. This was around 12:30. As she entered, she mentioned there was a guy and a girl on the 3rd floor stairwell - something that's a "grey area" in boundaries for opposite sexes to meet. Didn't think much of it.
Later that night, I needed to clear my head - so I went out for a walk. About 1 am. they were still there. 2 am. I get back from my walk. They were still there. He had a Bible and was talking about something spiritual. Like I said, didn't think much of it.
Sleep! :-) Wake up at 2:45 am. I hear a girl talking loudly in the end lounge. I just wanted to see if she and this guy were there. So I did. I grabbed some garbage from my room and stepped outside to throw it away in the end lounge trash bin. It was that same girl - without the guy.
But I couldn't stop listening to her convo. (Yes, I realize this was eavesdropping... but I'll use the "samwise" copout - 'I wasn't droppin' no eaves, sir, promise....nothing important...I mean, something about a dark lord and the end of the world)
I discovered she and her boyfriend named Andy were arguing over the fact that she hadn't talked to him in 3 days. (I figure something bad had happened.) I later found out that their relationship is long distance.
3 am. She decides to call her boyfriend. Can I just say that when you're upset, or when your boyfriend's upset...3 am isn't the best time to be having this conversation. Everyone (INCLUDING THE WHOLE WORLD) knows that things seem worse in the middle of the night. So at 3 am, don't call your boyfriend upset. Wait another 12 hours to have this conversation, and the light of day might bring different results. (Although, technically, the Bible says not to wait til the sun goes down on your anger. But I'm thinking that's a little bit metaphorical.)
Some of my favorite lines by her through the evening were, "I'm apologizing to you! Didn't you hear that? I just apologized to you. You're supposed to forgive me! The Bible says it!"
Ok, well, you're right. The Bible says we are to forgive - and you did just apologize to him. But you really think the best way to get him to forgive you is by calling him at 3 am to say your sorry, then tell him he HAS to forgive you? Really? I'm thinking not. My next thought is that at 3 am, telling him to forgive you is just going to get on his nerves more than anything. When you do something wrong, and you ask for forgiveness, they need to forgive you. But don't expect it to happen in a heartbeat. Sometimes it takes a little while to say "I forgive you."
She also said, "No, andy, listen to me, just listen to me...listen to me!............. I talk to YOU.....more than I talk to GOD!" Ok. Let's talk about this. Also a good point. We should talk to God daily. Not saying we shouldn't. But that is by far the worst cop-out line ever. Ya think about it, and most relationships we talk to each other verbally more than we talk to God. But we talk to God in more than one way. So, really, he wins in this one, too.
She also said later, which he later confirmed it, "What do you want me to do - forget and ignore all my friends here?" (I'm assuming most of these 'friends' are guy friends.) "You're not acting like my boyfriend right now! Cuz if you were, you'd understand that it's different! They're my friends." Now, I'm no relationship expert. But usually when you have a boyfriend (even harder when it's long distance), you need to be EXTRA cautious about who your male friends are and when and how you hang out with them, and how you act around them.
Let's dissect this further. You just spent the past 2 1/2 hours from the hours of 12-2:30 talking to a BOY in depth SPIRITUALLY about YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND. I'm thinking that wasn't the smartest of moves. Yes, you may have understand that "you sinned" by "not taking the time to be intentional about talking to your boyfriend." But I'm thinking that spending a good portion of your very late night alone with a boy in a stairwell - who wasn't your boyfriend.
"I talk to you more than once a day! I talk to you by texting. I text you all day long!" My thought: Does texting really count as talking to? Not really, for me, because you are not using your vocal chords. Nor can you sense intonation. And lets be honest. Any relationship based on texting throughout the day isn't much of a relationship.
In the end, let me just say the following:
UNLESS you WANT half of our hall to wake up and listen in on this conversation...and UNLESS you WANT your boyfriend to break up with you...
I'd start by NOT having 3 hour in depth Spiritual conversations alone with a boy in the middle of the night, and then NOT calling your boyfriend at 3 am in an end lounge, crying and yelling. Just saying.
Sometimes girls just don't know how to cut the drama.
Tonight, I decided to go out for a walk. Before this, my friend had come in from outside to drop by my room. This was around 12:30. As she entered, she mentioned there was a guy and a girl on the 3rd floor stairwell - something that's a "grey area" in boundaries for opposite sexes to meet. Didn't think much of it.
Later that night, I needed to clear my head - so I went out for a walk. About 1 am. they were still there. 2 am. I get back from my walk. They were still there. He had a Bible and was talking about something spiritual. Like I said, didn't think much of it.
Sleep! :-) Wake up at 2:45 am. I hear a girl talking loudly in the end lounge. I just wanted to see if she and this guy were there. So I did. I grabbed some garbage from my room and stepped outside to throw it away in the end lounge trash bin. It was that same girl - without the guy.
But I couldn't stop listening to her convo. (Yes, I realize this was eavesdropping... but I'll use the "samwise" copout - 'I wasn't droppin' no eaves, sir, promise....nothing important...I mean, something about a dark lord and the end of the world)
I discovered she and her boyfriend named Andy were arguing over the fact that she hadn't talked to him in 3 days. (I figure something bad had happened.) I later found out that their relationship is long distance.
3 am. She decides to call her boyfriend. Can I just say that when you're upset, or when your boyfriend's upset...3 am isn't the best time to be having this conversation. Everyone (INCLUDING THE WHOLE WORLD) knows that things seem worse in the middle of the night. So at 3 am, don't call your boyfriend upset. Wait another 12 hours to have this conversation, and the light of day might bring different results. (Although, technically, the Bible says not to wait til the sun goes down on your anger. But I'm thinking that's a little bit metaphorical.)
Some of my favorite lines by her through the evening were, "I'm apologizing to you! Didn't you hear that? I just apologized to you. You're supposed to forgive me! The Bible says it!"
Ok, well, you're right. The Bible says we are to forgive - and you did just apologize to him. But you really think the best way to get him to forgive you is by calling him at 3 am to say your sorry, then tell him he HAS to forgive you? Really? I'm thinking not. My next thought is that at 3 am, telling him to forgive you is just going to get on his nerves more than anything. When you do something wrong, and you ask for forgiveness, they need to forgive you. But don't expect it to happen in a heartbeat. Sometimes it takes a little while to say "I forgive you."
She also said, "No, andy, listen to me, just listen to me...listen to me!............. I talk to YOU.....more than I talk to GOD!" Ok. Let's talk about this. Also a good point. We should talk to God daily. Not saying we shouldn't. But that is by far the worst cop-out line ever. Ya think about it, and most relationships we talk to each other verbally more than we talk to God. But we talk to God in more than one way. So, really, he wins in this one, too.
She also said later, which he later confirmed it, "What do you want me to do - forget and ignore all my friends here?" (I'm assuming most of these 'friends' are guy friends.) "You're not acting like my boyfriend right now! Cuz if you were, you'd understand that it's different! They're my friends." Now, I'm no relationship expert. But usually when you have a boyfriend (even harder when it's long distance), you need to be EXTRA cautious about who your male friends are and when and how you hang out with them, and how you act around them.
Let's dissect this further. You just spent the past 2 1/2 hours from the hours of 12-2:30 talking to a BOY in depth SPIRITUALLY about YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND. I'm thinking that wasn't the smartest of moves. Yes, you may have understand that "you sinned" by "not taking the time to be intentional about talking to your boyfriend." But I'm thinking that spending a good portion of your very late night alone with a boy in a stairwell - who wasn't your boyfriend.
"I talk to you more than once a day! I talk to you by texting. I text you all day long!" My thought: Does texting really count as talking to? Not really, for me, because you are not using your vocal chords. Nor can you sense intonation. And lets be honest. Any relationship based on texting throughout the day isn't much of a relationship.
In the end, let me just say the following:
UNLESS you WANT half of our hall to wake up and listen in on this conversation...and UNLESS you WANT your boyfriend to break up with you...
I'd start by NOT having 3 hour in depth Spiritual conversations alone with a boy in the middle of the night, and then NOT calling your boyfriend at 3 am in an end lounge, crying and yelling. Just saying.
