For the past school year, I've been in classes that have taught me about communication. How we communicate, how problems arise when communication goes awry, and how we can solve problems through communication.
When therapists, phychologists, and even the every day person say, "Communication is key," it's because it's true. But that doesn't mean it stings any less when it takes place.



For instance, I am currently on a dance team at our college. I have taken on the role of choreographing, teaching, and perfecting a kick routine in a matter of about a month. We have exactly three practices left.
Last practice, because of the Superbowl, practice was moved to an earlier time. Unfortunately, the time change took place less than 24 hours prior to practice. My understanding was that we would only have the early practice if everyone could make it. What I understood later, however, was that practice was moved earlier, no matter how many people could make it.

This created a conflict, as I entered practice expecting to see all 18 girls. I only saw 13. That means give of them would have to make practice time up. 5 of them needed to attempt the routine with the music. Multiple times. Knowing that they most likely wouldn't practice on their own, I was increasingly irked.

Later, after practice, the captains and I talked. It was good to get our feelings out on the table. It was beneficial to hear each other's point of views. But we all left after our meeting feeling as if we each were right. I still thought, and was still irked, that everyone was not there. They were irked that I was stepping across a line, expecting every member to attend.

I feel a little better about it now. I do. But the problem still is there; I still wish that people would commit fully to the team, instead of it's a "half and half" deal, when during tryouts people were asked if they were ready to fully commit to the team.

Communication is good, neh, it's great, and truly "key." However, when communicating hurts and wrongs, know that it won't immediately fix the pain and frustration. It takes time, love, and alot of patience to make it through battles still friends.